How to handle Anxiety

We all have certain standards that we live by and that’s great, but sometimes when we don’t meet some of them, we end up punishing ourselves severely.

Anxiety to me is the racing thoughts in your head that renders you speechless, coupled with sweaty palms. You’re scared, nervous, embarrassed and wondering how am I able to feel all of this at once? The society we live in is such that many of us will experience this feeling more than once, so it’s important to find methods to get yourself out of it.

I believe anxiety comes from judging ourselves and comparing ourselves to others, therefore to become less anxious we need to deal with these root causes. Understanding ourselves and why we do things or think a specific way is actually quite a difficult task. It brings forward many emotions that we normally try to suppress. We need to see ourselves for the complex beings we are and move forward in baby steps so that we don’t end up hurting ourselves even more.

When it comes to judgement, we need to ask ourselves these questions:

Is what I’m doing going to hurt myself or others?

Is it illegal ?

If your answer is no, then why are you afraid of doing it? Is it because of what others will think of you? I know it’s tough to be laughed at or made fun of.. but all that really means is you are unique. Actually everyone is unique but many decide to hide behind the thoughts of the masses and you have broken free. They may not see it that way but are you really going to cause yourself pain and emotional hurt because they choose to think a certain way?… We need to be proud of being able to choose our own direction. I know this is a clichè but It really doesn’t matter what others think of you. It only ever matters if you let it. So don’t let it!

We also go through life constantly comparing ourselves with everyone we know, with people our age, people of our skin colour and just people in any wake of life. We try to talk like them, act like them, and have what they have and then we wonder why we aren’t happy. How can we be happy though? We aren’t anyone else. We’re us. We like what we like, we want what we want. Now I know it’s easy to say all this but when it comes down to putting it into practice we still find ourselves going out of our way so that we appeal to the masses. Well that part is down to you.

Advice is everywhere these days, but what matters is what we do with it. When you’re ready just take a breath, take some alone time and let go. Let go of all the people that made you feel you weren’t good enough and after you let them go tell yourself you want to heal. Tell yourself you know it’s not going to be easy but you know the rewards will be great for you. Then put into practice the small actions and decisions that will ultimately make you, you! Do whatever you want and back it up by standing up for yourself. Your confidence will be your biggest strength. This is possible for all of us, we just need to choose it and stick with it.

I will admit it’s been one of my biggest challenges too, but hey that’s what we’re here to do, learn and grow. Purple Empaths hope to inspire and is always ready to lend a helping hand.

Much 💖

~purple