Most of us have regrets and scars from things we did or things that happened to us when we were younger. Often we can’t really talk to people about those things because we’ve blocked it out or we become scared, if people knew who we were, they would leave. Healing and letting go of inner child issues becomes more difficult the older we get and it’s really important we deal with them, here’s why:
- When you suppress your emotions it often shows up in bursts of extremity and could leave you feeling worse and or embarrassed.
- By not addressing the issue you are continuing the karmic cycle with any person involved in your traumas and you’re also preventing your own life from moving ahead to its full potential.
- Issues from the past often impact on the relationships we have now, causing them to end in tears because we simply can’t open up and trust people who love us.
- We may develop mental disorders because of these suppressed feelings and that could further lead to substance abuse, which in turn will destroy our lives.
So how do we deal with inner child issues?
Well the answer may seem obvious but it is far from easy. Communication is the key when dealing with such stressful memories. Talking to someone we trust and who loves us will make this process much easier. If you’re not comfortable talking to someone just yet, expressing yourself by writing it all out will also be very helpful.
The second step is acceptance, we need to fully accept that these things did happen to us or that we may have done things to others. It may cause a lot of pain and take a bit of time for this to happen but it will be worth it and so freeing for you.
After we’ve accepted our past self it’s vital to understand why things happened the way they did. Look at the people in your life during that time, were you influenced or pressured into feeling you needed to be a certain way? And if you had to go back to that time would you change anything? Ask yourself why or why not? As much as talking to someone we love helps get the process started, the only person who can really give us answers is ourselves.
Remember this step isn’t meant to shift blame or to adopt a victim attitude. It’s simply to understand.
After we’ve understood fully we can finally begin to forgive ourselves and perhaps the people that have hurt us or influenced us to be that way. Remember forgiving someone doesn’t mean you need to let them back into your life neither is it something that they have to know, the forgiveness can be in your heart and mind.
Once you feel that this issue is no longer a problem you can finally let go. You will feel the weight of it being lifted from your mind and definitely enjoy healthier relationships. When you heal your inner child you become your true self, the best version of you and you can go on and discover all the things that makes you happy.
I hope everyone finds true happiness with themselves, remember we are all worth loving.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope it helps you on your journey!
Purple Empaths 